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Many people say they're not active on social media because they’re not “the kind of person to post selfies.”
Can we agree that the selfie is the modern self-portrait? It's giving people a window into your soul!
If you're not comfortable getting transparent or vulnerable (like an artist creating a self-portrait), think of taking a selfie as simply sharing a moment in your day.
Through the photo or caption, tell us...
- Where are you?
- What’s happening?
- How do you feel?
- Why are you sharing this moment with others?
If selfies bother you, it might be because you think someone taking a photo of themselves is narcissistic. If that's your belief, ask someone nearby to take the photo! You may also be able to utilize the timer function on your phone!
Instagram research shows that pictures with human faces are 38% more likely to receive likes and 32% more likely to attract comments. We like you and we want to see you—even if that's just online.
In reality, you may not be “the kind of person to post selfies” based on your self-image.
There’s a psychological concept called the “looking-glass self” that says our self-image doesn’t come from who we really are... but rather from how we think others see us.
Social media has amplified the "looking glass self." Now, more than ever, our self-image is easily affected by others.
You can gain instant pride and confidence through a surge of "likes." Alternatively, you can instantly (and so incredibly falsely) feel that "no one likes me" if you're waiting too long for followers, likes or comments.
Releasing the need for approval is a larger issue than this blog—but it’s something I’d like to discuss and explore with you in the comments.
My case today is that selfies are not a bad thing! Despite serving vanity and ego for some, a selfie can be a great way to connect with hundreds and thousands of people in a real, emotional way. Your self-portrait, a.k.a. #selfie, has the potential to change someone's life. Seriously. You never know the impact of your words or intention.
The key is not to overuse the selfie. Like Self-Promotion for Introverts, you have to be very careful not to cross the line of confidence into narcissism.
If we don’t get to see you offline and in person everyday, an occasional selfie or photo of you makes us very happy!
How do you feel about the selfie? Comment below!
Tony Howell is a digital strategist dedicated to helping you design your future—creating offline success from your online presence.